What are you grateful for?
Over time I learned that you can’t dwell on the negative. You need to embrace what life throws at you and find better ways to overcome it. Remember, if you didn’t go through certain things you wouldn’t be the person you are today. We tend to think this life just came about as if we didn’t need to go through things and make a change to be the person we are today. When I look back on my life there are a few things I’m grateful for?
- My Past Relationships: Each relationship taught me something different. However, the best lesson I learned was; putting me first. I was so willing to put everyone before me and believed that’s how love was supposed to be. But I was wrong. Giving your all and getting nothing back is draining. Since 2017, I’ve been single and on a journey of self-love, care and development. Soon, the person that’s for me will come along and I will know how to be in a healthy relationship.
- My Growth: Once I decided that I wanted to have a relationship with God, my life has been changing. God knew that for me to appreciate what he has in store for me, I would need to grow and learn new things. For the last year, I’ve been slapped with unexpected things. Somethings made me cry, some drained me, some stopped me from doing anything wrong, and some just left me speechless. But all helped me grow in different areas of my life. Now, I finally see life in a different aspect and I appreciate things so much more.
- My Daughter: Nylah taught me that standing out isn’t a bad thing. Being educated and knowing that you are destined to go places is a good thing. She taught me how to be unbothered. It’s as if things may bother her but she doesn’t dwell on them. No matter who isn’t around she is still going to succeed. Nylah knows when to say I love you and when to come and spend time with me. Nylah brings happiness in my life daily. My ball of beautiful energy!
- My Stability: For as long as I can remember I was never a stable person. I stayed moving around going to different schools being in different areas. I never knew how important stability was until I had my own child. When I say stability is important, trust me it’s important. Have you ever caught the bus in a blizzard with a young child? Yes, I hated it. Catching the bus and being in cold weather. I didn’t always have my own house. Do you know what it feels like sleeping on somebody’s couch? It’s not a good feeling at all. When I say I’m grateful for my stability, all I do is smile because I’ve come far.
After God, these are the top 4 things I’m grateful for. Most of the things are taken for granted. My past is nothing but lessons that will continue to help me get through life. See, I know where I used to be and where I’m trying to go. These things helped me to do better. Knowing what it feels like to be in a dark place because of your circumstances, can mess up your way of life. Choose to appreciate the old you, because now you know what not to do.